How To Achieve Self Love


“Where there is love, there is life!” – Gandhi

You’re not truly alive if you can’t love. And if you haven’t found someone who loves you completely, it can feel as though you’re half of a person.

Some of the greatest writers and scholars in history have known this and spread the word. Gandhi said, “Where there is love, there is life.” And Henry David Thoreau said, “There is no remedy for love but to love more.”

Love is a drug that improves your health, outlook, and makes the world a better place. The human body craves love. Love is life, and you need that even if you don’t have the opportunity to share it with someone else right now.

So, how can you get love unless someone gives it to you? Give it to yourself.

OK, you’re probably thinking, “here we go again with more self-love guru crap.” But there’s real behavioral science behind it.

You see, love isn’t bad. It’s not painful and best left alone. The problems arise when you love the wrong person. That leads to pain, regret, and self loathing.

After all, if that person couldn’t even love you, how bad must you be, right? Wrong!

You’re validating the wrong person in the relationship. So it’s time for a crash course: Self Love 101.

Self Love 101

It’s essential to love yourself before trying to love someone else.


Because if you don’t, you won’t need that person because you love them, you’ll love them because you’ll need them. And those are very different concepts.

If you love out of need, once that required feeling is gone, the love fades with it. But if you need someone because you love them, you’ll either continue loving that person or be able to love someone else if your needs ever change.

A few different things can happen if you refuse to love yourself:

  • You could latch on to the tiniest scraps of love thrown your way, regardless of how worthless or unhealthy they may be.
  • You may feel so unworthy that you refuse to accept real love when it comes your way.
  • You may be too afraid of being hurt for the first time, or being hurt again.
  • You may end up pushing all prospects away to protect yourself or because you refuse to believe you can be loved.

The act of self-love becomes habitual rather quickly. And if practiced, it acts as a magnet to draw in the love you want and need in your life.

The right people will always be drawn to you if you love yourself. How can they not be? As soon as you realize your own worth, they’ll see the same thing.

Self-love tips can help anyone struggling with insecurity, especially those who have been walked on and neglected. Anyone who has treated others like crap to feel confident about themselves can also benefit from self-love. If you’re somewhere in the center of the two, and about to be blindsided by love, you’re definitely ready for the following self love tips.

Pay attention to your feelings and be willing to act on them

Don’t rush into something if you’re not ready. But practice letting your feelings lead you where you need to go.

In most cases, if your emotional reactions are positive and it feels good, it probably is good. But if it makes you feel bad, be willing to let it go. Put yourself first.

Follow The “Golden Rule”

It’s always important to treat others as you want to be treated. But that extends to yourself as well.

Practice being kind to yourself. Treat yourself with love and respect. Offer understanding and compassion. Forgive yourself of human error. But when the inner voices shout, drown them out with your favorite tunes until they give up and go away. Take care of yourself first

Your needs must always come before a love interest’s. That’s not saying someone else shouldn’t be an important part of your life. But you have to love yourself first.

Go out for the night with close friends. Play your favorite video game for a few hours. Get some you time. Develop some real self worth. And then you’ll be able to focus on someone else either right away or down the line.

Being open to love begins internally. Once you’ve followed these steps and practiced self-love, you’ll radiate an irresistible inner glow that will draw outside love to you. Just give it time and let it happen.

Reverse My Tinnitus – A Review Of Dr. James Phillips And Alan Watson’s Remedy For Stopping Ringing In The Ears


When Alan Watson created the Reverse My Tinnitus program, he was looking for a solution to his own “ringing in the ears” that had gotten worse over the years.  This senior sound engineer used his experience in the field and the help of doctors on the verge of a breakthrough in the tinnitus industry to create a product that could permanently cure tinnitus without any drugs or medications.

When the pharmaceutical companies first caught wind of the Reverse My Tinnitus program, it was shrugged off as just another in a long line of so-called miracle cures with no solid foundation for eliminating ringing in the ears.  However, when over 100,000 long-term tinnitus sufferers were able to eliminate their tinnitus using the techniques in this guide, the medical world as a whole began to take notice.

How could a senior sound engineer discover a permanent cure for tinnitus using only ingredients he bought at the supermarket?

Reverse My Tinnitus by Dr. James Phillips and Alan Watson gives new hope to those tormented by chronic tinnitus.

Reverse My Tinnitus by Dr. James Phillips and Alan Watson gives new hope to those tormented by chronic tinnitus.

For decades it was believed that when the cochlea within the inner ear was damaged, ringing in the ear would simply continue to get worse with age.  Physicians prescribed medications and recommended cochlea repair surgery to lessen the pain associated with tinnitus but experienced only limited success.

It wasn’t until Alan Watson heard about natural inner ear repair experiments by Dr. James Phillips, that the Reverse My Tinnitus program was born.  Alan learned that Dr. Phillips was on the verge of making incredible breakthroughs concerning damage within the inner ear, and combined with his extensive experience as a sound engineer, the two were destined to meet and form a close working relationship.

Regardless whether tinnitus is a result of age, listening to loud music, or exposure to noise at work, the Reverse My Tinnitus program was developed to work on the root cause of the problem and not just mask the symptoms.  The techniques in this guide are backed by a large team of research physicians from a top 5 research university in England.

At the time of writing this Reverse My Tinnitus review, the guide has successfully cured over 105,301 people of the hissing, buzzing, and non-stop ringing in their ears.  The reason the medical world took notice was the fact that many of these patients experienced these results in as little as 14 days.

The techniques outlined in the Reverse My Tinnitus program were not only safe, they incorporated only the use of all natural ingredients found in many kitchen cupboards.  No longer were these patients required to visit their physicians, even after being told that the symptoms of their tinnitus were incurable.

People who have been suffering with tinnitus for months, years, and even decades, were able to cure the ringing in the ear with only all natural ingredients found on the shelves of every supermarket across the country.  Over 50 million people in America alone are suffering with tinnitus, many so severe they have resorted to expensive and dangerous surgeries to try and get some relief.

Enter Dr. James Phillips, an ear, nose and throat specialist, who was on the verge of some incredible breakthroughs with tinnitus at Oxford University.  His team of researchers discovered that the myelin sheath that covers the nerves in the ear cells were able to be repaired with antibodies.  Damage to that myelin sheath results in hissing, ringing, and buzzing within the ear.

His team was about to uncover how activating the production of this antibody naturally in the body can cure tinnitus permanently.

The Reverse My Tinnitus program is a step-by-step guide on how to get your body to produce the antibody in the right amounts to repair any damage to the nerve cells and reverse the process naturally.  Within only three weeks, people were experiencing between a 98% and 100% removal of every tinnitus symptom they had.

When Dr. Phillips and Alan Watson got together, they were able to incorporate a detailed plan for identifying certain foods that contain the ingredients that can attack tinnitus at its root cause rather than simply mask the noises, headaches, and other symptoms.  The Reverse My Tinnitus program was the end result of that culmination of these two great minds, and now it was being distributed to tinnitus sufferers around the globe.

Many of the 50 million Americans suffering with tinnitus are resigned to the belief they must continue to take prescribed medications to lessen the symptoms they have each day.  The pharmaceutical companies continue to go on the defensive to try and keep the information within the Reverse My Tinnitus guide from getting out.

Unfortunately for the pharmacy industry, positive testimonials from patients who have used the guide to eliminate their tinnitus continue to pour in each day.  Over 100,000 people have discovered that using all natural ingredients found in foods they already enjoy can restore the hearing they once enjoyed. Medications used to simply lessen the dizziness, reduce the sounds of ringing and buzzing, and stop nausea associated with tinnitus are no longer needed.

The Reverse My Tinnitus program works at repairing the root cause to the hearing issues, and restores the lining that sends the sound signals to the brain.  Although the body creates the antibody needed to repair the sheath naturally, it does not do it in abundance unless you are eating the right amounts of certain foods.

These foods that include things like nuts, beans, meat, and eggs, eaten in the right amounts, reverse the long- term effects of tinnitus naturally.  By following the step-by-step protocol inside the Reverse My Tinnitus ebook, you can utilize the decades of combined research that Dr. Phillips and Alan Watson bring to the table.

Once a person understands which ingredients can repair the protective lining to the inner ear, incorporating these ingredients into a diet is the easy part. Patients can now experience a life without the symptoms of tinnitus as long as they continue to produce the antibodies within the body naturally!

You can learn more about the science behind the program and how to download a copy for yourself by clicking here to visit Dr. James Phillips and Alan Watson’s Reverse My Tinnitus website.

Talking Dirty To Your Man – 10 Phrases That Make You A Sex Goddess In His Mind

Do you know the dirty words and phrases that really turn a man on?

Do you know the dirty words and phrases that really turn a man on?

Contrary to what most people believe, arousal is not only about touch. According to experts, sexy things that you whisper, scream, or moan usually trigger a neurochemical reaction that will make a man heat up for you.

In this brief dirty talk guide, we start up slow and move to the racier stuff.  When you are done reading, you will never wonder what to say to him when the two of you are in bed again.  Also, be sure to take a look at the Language of Desire for more of the best dirty talk words, phrases, texts, and techniques we’ve ever come across.

Ok, time to get a little naughty! ;)

1.) “What do you want me to do to you tonight?”

When you ask a man what he wants you to do to him, you are giving an indication that you are open to sexual exploration. In addition, if it’s your first time talking dirty to your man, this phrase will really help you ease up a conversation and help you determine how naughty he is willing to get.

2.) “Your kisses turn me on!”

This will help improve the intimacy during foreplay. This positive feedback will also heighten his arousal because guys are performance oriented.

3.)  “Your arms are super sexy!”

Guys don’t receive physical complements as often as women. Therefore, by telling him that you love one of his physical features, he will get even more turned on.

4.) “I want you so bad!”

The signs of female arousal cannot be easily identified like the signs of male arousal. You can easily tell when a guy is aroused. When he is aroused, he will be anxious to get an affirmation that you want him too.

5.) “Your mouth should be on my breasts”

Giving him this sexy command shows that you are not only confident, but you are also in control. Any hot demand approach will be perfect (Grab my…..Let me play with your…….).  You get the idea. :)

6.) “Nothing feels better than you filling me up”

The most pleasurable moment for a guy is when he enters you. When he is pushing himself into your vagina the first time, he believes that he is having a big impact on you.

Giving a description of the experience you are having as he penetrates reassures him that you know how hard and huge he is.

7.) “F….. me harder!”

Get out of your comfort zone and use words like “pussy”, “tits” or “f…..”. Using these word shows that you have put down all your boundaries and that lust has taken control of you.

Don’t be phony; only drop f… word when it feels right. Make sure that your language matches your state of arousal. The closer you get to an orgasm, the more explicit you should get.

8.) “Oh god!”

An all time favorite!  This two-word phrase should definitely be in your vocabulary if you want to make your man experience sexual euphoria.  It not only indicates that you are in utter bliss but also gives sex a forbidden feel. You should unleash it during any intense moment.

9.) “I love the way your big, hard penis feels inside me!”

Most guys are not confident with the size, appearance, or shape of their penis. Therefore, telling him that you love his penis not only makes him hornier but boosts his confidence.

10.) “Sex with you is incredible!”

By saying how incredible the intercourse was when you are lying side by side after sex, you are reinforcing the fact that you have awesome chemistry and telling him that you were satisfied. Since the level of oxytocin (a bonding hormone) peaks after sex, this is the time when he is really craving for connection and closeness.

The ultimate sexual pleasure for a man comes from knowing he’s the one responsible for rocking your world!  Therefore, when talking dirty to your man, use phrases like the ones above to stroke his ego and make him feel more masculine.  Do that, and he really will rock your world and never let you go!

5 Tips To Help You Write An Online Dating Message That Gets Noticed

Taking a few notes while reading someone's online dating profile can help you relate more when you craft your first message.

Taking a few notes while reading someone’s online dating profile can help you relate more when you craft your first message.

Although most people still prefer traditional dating, online dating still works wonders for many people. I am a testimony to the fact that online dating works given the fact that I met my husband online.

He made the first move after seeing my profile, but to be honest his profile didn’t really grab my attention. (Sorry, hunny! :) )

It was a typical online profile with basic information. Nothing out of the norm.

His first message was however what got my attention. Come to think of it, it wasn’t a flirty message or anything explicit.

It wasn’t even a clever message. But it still worked wonders for me.

It was clear my current husband had gone through my profile in detail. He didn’t just go through my photos. He went further and read everything.

Out of what he gathered, he sent me a brief message that commented on some of the things he had read. It was that simple. He didn’t have to flirt or be smart about the message. He only had to be real.

Although my husband’s first message to me was flattering, it wasn’t explicit or personal. Before meeting my husband online, most of the first messages I was receiving online were personal and flirty. My husband however checked out my profile and commented about my visit to Africa saying that he really liked my anecdote and he was interested in hearing more about my experience there.

That did it for me. He didn’t have to struggle to get a coffee date.

I thought I’d share my experiences to let all men know what works when it comes to sending the first message in online dating. Below are some effective tips.

1. Be yourself

This is by far the most important tip to consider. You shouldn’t worry too much about being funny, cute, witty, clever etc. If it’s not in you to be funny, don’t try too hard.

Authenticity is a very important factor in online dating so stay away from common messages. Set yourself apart by being yourself when sending your first message.

2. Take a few notes and pay attention to details

This is another important tip to consider. Instead of just rushing through someone’s photos and sending a message hurriedly, pay attention to the fine print i.e. the story behind the pictures, interests etc.

My husband got my attention because of going through my profile thoroughly. Most guys don’t do this.

If you want your first message to stand out, pay attention to details and comment on the most important things you pick.

3. Relate

It’s also important to try and find something that both of you can relate with. My husband and I love traveling. He checked out my profile and discovered that about me.

He went ahead and crafted his first message to me based on our commonality. It was a perfect time to mention it.

4. Keep it brief and concise

Your first message should also be short, sweet and straight to the point.

It’s important to note that most people have short attention spans when it comes to reading messages from strangers. This is precisely why you should avoid sending long messages at all costs. Your first message should be concise.

5. Ask a question

One of the best ways of initiating a conversation is to use questions. Your first message in online dating should always include a question to make it easy for the other person to respond.

It can be funny, creative, totally off the wall, or even just a “getting to know you” type of question.  The idea is to give them something they can quickly respond to without having to stress over figuring out what to say.

Sending your first message in online dating doesn’t have to be a daunting task.

Just be yourself, pay attention to details, relate, send a brief and concise message, and remember to ask a question. When you do this, you will greatly increase your chances of getting a response.

How To Make Men You Want Approach You

A man's biggest fear is being rejected by a beautiful woman.  If you want him to approach, send him signals that let him know you won't turn him away.

A man’s biggest fear is being rejected by a beautiful woman. If you want him to approach, send him signals that let him know you won’t turn him away.

Are you a single attractive female who seems to have a problem attracting the right met? Do you take time to dress right and yet seem to attract the losers of every group? Why is it that the men you like do not approach you?  Do all these questions seem to describe you?

If you seem to be one of those women who happens to be single and yet cannot get the good men to approach you then you may be doing a few things wrong.

First, do not make the excuse that you cannot meet the right guys. What are you, a high school student?  As long as you are a mature working woman, chances are that you encounter men on a daily basis.

Change your attitude. All your daily activities like traveling on a bus or tube, stopping at an eatery and shopping at a supermarket should become opportunities for men to approach you. It is a myth to think that men who like a woman and fail to approach her are wimps.

Beautiful women are everywhere. Men cannot approach all the beautiful women they see. They will look desperate if they do.

Because men fear rejection, you need to give them a sign that you want them to approach you. Your signals may be standing in the way of a good relationship.

How To Motivate A Man To Make A Move On You

Eye contact

Do not make the mistake that most women make when a guy approaches and look away. You need to connect with the guy. What better way to do that than to make eye contact? Keep the eye contact for a short while, just to make an impression and then look elsewhere. You do not want to be mistaken for a stalker.


A smile costs nothing. Give a warm and friendly smile to a man you are interested in but do not overdo it.  You should take time to smile more when going about your daily activities such as riding the best. If you are with friends, look the guy over subtly, smile widely, and wait.

Initiate Conversations

If you like a man and you are interested in dating him, there is no harm in initiating a conversations. You can do it as an individual or as part of a group. Ask for advice on what to drink. The aim is to leave you open to having a conversation with the man in question. You want to come across as friendly and engaging so that he can get interested enough to ask you out.

Limit your group size

Men get scared of large groups of women. When you opt for a girl’s night out, go in a small group preferably two or three. You want to appear approachable to the men you want instead of intimidating them. Stay with the girls even if you have a gay male friend with you. Otherwise, the man you want may assume you are taken.

Be confident and presentable

Always dress for success if you want to attract the right kind of man. Show of your assets without looking trashy and let your self-confidence shine through.  Take part in what is happening around you but avoid being too loud. Stand tall and avoid looking closed off. Make sure you smell nice too, to avoid turning off the right guy when he approaches.

How To Get A Hot Girl To Be Your Girlfriend

No woman is out of your league, so don't be afraid to approach even the hottest girl in the room.

No woman is out of your league, so don’t be afraid to approach even the hottest girl in the room.

There are many guys who keep looking for hot girlfriends, but don’t have anyone to give them some pointers. When you are craving for a hot girlfriend, the thought may be passing through your mind every minute of the day. Guys keep looking for someone special to complete their life. In this post, we will give you some simple tips to find a girlfriend easily or you can check out this Girlfriend Activation System review for even more info. We will also tell you how you can work on your personality and approach to get a girlfriend in no time.

Work On Your Personality and Interaction Skills

In order to get a hot girlfriend, it’s very important to brush up your core personality and interaction skills.  With a nice personality and interaction skills, you will not have to find a girlfriend. Your nice personality will be able to attract many hot girls toward you. While meeting new women, try to understand their desires and what they want.

Once you have interpreted what they are looking for in you, try to show them the same. Some key areas on which you should work include approaching women, building confidence, building rapport, communication skills and seduction skills.

Be Clear About What You Want

It’s very important to be clear about the kind of girl you want. This clarity will help you approach the right kind of women and make a better choice. A clear understanding will work in your favor and help you to achieve a desired outcome. There are many different things you should consider in a girl.

When you’re looking for a hot girlfriend, her physical appearance as well as background will matter a lot.  Some basic features you should consider include age, personality, family background, intelligence level, education, physical appearance and so on.

Visit the Right Kind of Places

Needless to say, in order to meet a hot girl, you will have to be in the perfect place. Once you are clear about the kind of girl you want, visit places where your dream girl may be. For instance, if you’re looking for a hot, outgoing person, you may hit a club.

On the other hand, joining a gym would be a better choice if you’re looking for a hot girl with a great body. A proper understanding of your dream girl’s personality, likes and dislikes will give you a better idea about the places you need to visit.

Most guys find it quite hard to find a hot girlfriend. However, it’s not as difficult as it sounds. If you follow the tips mentioned in this post, you will definitely be able to find a hot girlfriend soon. Just focus on your personality, and visit the right places to meet hot girls.

How Can I Get A Girlfriend If I’m Shy?

Ok, this look is a little creepy, but she seems to dig it.

We don’t recommend just grabbing her and giving her a creepy stalker look…especially when she has a knife in her hand.

A lot of guys probably want to ask the question, how can I get a girlfriend if i’m shy?

This is certainly a reasonable question to ask since they probably feel as if they are stuck in a relationship rut while their friends are having a wonderful time with their partner. This can actually get quite distressing, so it makes sense to try to work out what can be done to get around this shyness.

Perhaps one of the first things to do is to think about why you are shy. Is there a specific reason? Did you have a bad experience in the past? Are you shy in general or just around girls?

By perhaps understanding yourself a bit better it will hopefully allow you to see where your problem lies and allow you to address it.  There are also programs like the Girlfriend Activation System (GFAS) that can really help you develop your dating mojo.  There’s a great write up about GFAS over at

So what do you do if you are still stuck after this?

Well, you need to think of places where you could meet girls in a more relaxed setting. Are there any special interest groups that you could join for example? Having something in common before you even begin talking can help to break down that ice wall that you automatically construct and you never know what could happen once you start talking.

Another idea is just to use your friends and quiz them about whether or not they know someone themselves because do you want to know a secret? There are girls out there that are asking how they will get a boyfriend when they are shy, so that may very well be a match made in heaven.

Finally, there is the Internet and doing dating online has not only helped shy people find a girlfriend and get into a relationship, but it has even helped the most outgoing people in society to find a partner or that special someone.

People have really taken to Internet dating as it has allowed them to take their time researching into what others are looking for and what they like before then taking their time to slowly work on building even a friendship before it is able to progress to something more. This takes away so much pressure and stress and it also just allows you to see who is on the market rather than seeing someone you like and wondering if they are in a relationship before getting anxious and doing nothing.

What we are saying is that there are several options when it comes to you being able to get a girlfriend even when you are shy, so do not give up hope as there is no need to be alone. Instead, think carefully about who you are and what you want and the perfect partner is out there waiting for you.